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High Levels of People Pleasing.
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You’ve built your identity around being reliable, easygoing, and the person others can count on. You’re the one people turn to for support, to fix things, to step in when they need help. And while that might feel like part of who you are, there’s a difference between being a kind, thoughtful person and feeling responsible for everyone else’s comfort, emotions, and expectations.
People-pleasing isn’t just about saying yes too much—it’s about over-functioning in relationships, at work, and in life. Maybe you’ve learned that keeping things running smoothly prevents conflict. Maybe you worry that if you don’t step in, things will fall apart. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that being easygoing makes you more likable, even when it means putting yourself second.
And this habit? It’s exhausting. Because deep down, you want to put yourself first—but the guilt, overthinking, and pressure to be "good" for everyone else keep pulling you back in.
You’re already aware of this pattern, and that’s the first step. Now it’s time to stop thinking about changing and actually start making the shift.
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So let's do it!
You already know that people-pleasing is holding you back, and you’re aware of the patterns—but shifting them still feels hard. You might catch yourself saying yes before you’ve even thought about it, replaying conversations in your head, or feeling guilty for putting yourself first.
The three shifts below are designed to help you rewire those patterns, step into more self-trust, and make decisions without overthinking. You’ve already taken the first step by recognising the pattern—now it’s time to start breaking it.
Where to focus next?
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1. Rewriting Your "Shoulds"
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So much of people-pleasing comes from an invisible list of shoulds running in the background. You should help. You should say yes. You should be available. But where did these rules come from? And do they actually serve you?
Try this: Write down 3 things you regularly do because you feel like you should. Then, challenge each one: Where did this should come from? What would actually happen if I didn't do this? What do I want instead?
You might notice that some of these "rules" aren't even yours - they're things you've picked up from family, work, or past experiences. Once you start questioning them, they lose their power.
People-pleasers often take on extra work without realising it - at home, in friendships, at work - either because they feel they have to, to gain validation or to prove themselves. This can look like stepping in before anyone even realises there’s a problem—fixing, smoothing things over, and making sure no one feels uncomfortable, not because they asked you to, but because it feels like your responsibility.
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Try this: For the next 3 days, keep track of all of the "invisible work" you do - every time you step in or take responsibility for something that isn't actually yours to carry. Write it down and at the end of the 3 days ask yourself, Which things did I actually have to do? Which things could I have left undone, and what would have happened? What's one thing I can stop doing this week?
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This exercise will help you see how much extra weight you're carrying and give you permission to start setting it down.
2. The "Invisible Work" Audit
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3. Build Proof of Your Own Worth
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Right now, you rely on external validation to feel worthy—but your value isn’t based on what you do for others.
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Try this: Start a Personal Wins List. Write down every time you spoke up for yourself, set a boundary, or made a decision for you, not others. Review it often, add to it and celebrate yourself each time you read it.
The more you see your own strength, the easier it is to trust yourself—without needing approval.
You already know you're stuck in a people-pleasing loop. You've tried setting boundaries, reminding yourself to say no, maybe read some self-development books on it - but when the moment comes to put it into action, you still hesitate. That's because people-pleasing isn't just a bad habit. It's a deep-rooted pattern, and patterns don't change without the right support.
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That's exactly what Unstoppable 2.0, my signature coaching programme gives you:
1:1 coaching to help you see exactly where you're stuck and how to shift it.
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Inside Unstoppable 2.0, we work together so you can:
• Set clear boundaries (and actually stick to them)
• Say no with confidence—even to the people who push back
• Make decisions without second-guessing​​
• Stop feeling like you have to prove your worth
This is where your next level starts.
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You don't have to figure it all out on your own.
Book a free 30-minute breakthrough call below, and we’ll map out your next steps towards a life where your needs, voice, and boundaries come first—with clarity, calm and unstoppable confidence.