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Based On Your Answers You Show...
Moderate Levels of People Pleasing.
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You’ve come a long way in recognising your own needs, and you’ve started shifting away from old people-pleasing patterns. You’ve probably set some boundaries, spoken up in situations that used to make you hesitate, and made decisions based on what you want—not just what keeps others happy. That’s a huge step.
But here’s the thing—people-pleasing isn’t always obvious. At this level, it can show up in more subtle ways. Maybe you still hesitate before saying no. Maybe you second-guess whether you’re being “too much.” Maybe you sometimes filter your words to keep things easy, even when you don’t fully agree.
That’s because people-pleasing isn’t just about saying yes too much—it’s a habit that’s been shaped over time. It might have started in childhood, when being agreeable helped you avoid tension. It could have developed in past relationships, where making others happy felt like the safest way to feel accepted. Or maybe, at work, you’ve learned that being the one who “just gets on with it” makes things easier—even when it leaves you drained.
You’re in a powerful place now, because you already see what’s happening. And that means you’re ready to go from being aware of the pattern to fully breaking it.
You’ve built some confidence in putting yourself first, and you’re aware of when you’re people-pleasing—but hesitation still lingers. Maybe you find yourself holding back in certain conversations, struggling with boundaries in specific relationships, or overthinking before speaking up.
The three shifts below will help you strengthen your boundaries, trust yourself more, and reinforce your confidence—so people-pleasing doesn’t creep back in.
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1. Identify Hidden People-Pleasing
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Not all people-pleasing is obvious. Sometimes it shows up in small, unnoticed ways - like saying I don't mind when you actually do, staying quiet when you disagree, or over-apologising for things that aren't your fault.
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Try this: Write down three situations where you hold back, soften your words, or adjusted yourself for the sake of keepings things easy. Now ask yourself, If I showed up fully as myself, what would I have said or done differently?
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Recognising these patterns is the first step in shifting them.
Some boundaries feel easy to set, while others make you hesitate. The ones that make you feel resistance are where the growth happens.
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Try this: Write down the areas in your life where a new boundary is needed that you've been hesitant to reinforce - whether it's asking for more time to complete something, or saying no where you're over-stretched. Now, rate it on a scale of 1-10 in terms of discomfort (1 = easy, 10 = terrifying). Start with the lowest on the scale to build up your confidence and commit to holding at least 1 boundary this week.
With every boundary you set, it gets easier to reinforce.
2. The Comfort Test
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3. The “No-Explanation No” Exercise
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You're already building confidence in yourself but maybe saying no can feel a little sticky - especially when you feel like you need a "valid" excuse. But here's the thing: you don't owe anyone an explanation for prioritising yourself.
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Try this: For the next 7 days, practice saying no without justifying it. When asked to do something you don't want to do, respond with a simple That doesn't work for me or I won't be able to this time. If you catch yourself about to over-explain or soften your response, stop. You don't need to convince anyone. Saying no is enough.
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Journal Prompt: What are 3 things I've said yes to recently that I didn't actually want to do? What would I do differently next time?
You've already started shifting out of people-pleasing, but certain moments still trip you up - whether it's hesitating before saying no, over-explaining when you don't need to, or holding back in conversations because you're worried about saying the "wrong thing".
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You know this pattern isn't working for you anymore. Now it's about making sure you don't slip back into it.
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That's exactly why I created Unstoppable 2.0, my signature 1:1 coaching programme. It's where we go beyond the mindset shifts and make sure you actually live them, so you can:
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• Strengthen your boundaries so they actually stick
• Make decisions from self-trust, not external pressure
• Own your voice, presence, and confidence in every area of life​
• Let go of the fear of being “too much”
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This is where your next level becomes reality.
Book a free 30-minute breakthrough call below, and we’ll map out your next steps towards taking your confidence to the next level.